As they say, trust plays a vital role to the success of any relationship, but there is often something that goes underrated that should never be. We’re talking about communication; we are talking about understanding.
In order for a relationship to stand the test of time, communication must be well-established for the both parties: to feel fully understood and have a safe place to voice out their true feelings.
Communication becomes a problem when we listen just to be understood, but not to understand. Communication doesn't work that way; It should serve as a bridge not a wall that will stop us from having a good relationship with other people; it should also serve as a way for confusion and clarity to meet. But what's happening is, sadly, the other way around.
As a language major, I would agree that most relationships fail because of poor communication. But worry no more because we can still avoid the occurence of the cause of confusions for the both sides. We can only do that if you are already certain when to speak and when to listen to the concerns of our partners.
Don't think that we can read other people’s minds. Everyone has different communication needs and styles. We should, therefore, find a way of communicating that suits our relationships.
May we be reminded that communication is not just limited to words, it is beyond lexicons, for it it can also be deciphered through actions.
May we also be reminded that the real essence of communication is not just to be understood, but also to understand. Say sorry until you can, don't wait your pretty-good story to become a history. :)
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